Pet Peeve(s) Of The Day
You know you missed it. You know you’ve wanted to hear more about what peeves me.
Today, my pet peeves center around aggressive people. I think we all have people like this in our lives. And if it’s just me that has these type of people in my life, well, then, there’s something wrong with this picture!
* The scenario….
You’re telling your friends or a small group of people about some altercation you’ve had recently, be it with a store clerk, co-worker or stranger on the street. The other person was clearly the instigator and you and your listeners are getting riled up just hearing about the story. We all know that one person who thinks they’re big and bad who will say ” Man if that had been me I would have punched that person in the face! They’re sure lucky it wasn’t me that was there!” I’ve found that many times, that big bad person is a woman! After hearing that statement I want to say ” Really? You would really punch that person in the face? And, what, even if you did, you would be proud of assaulting someone and then most likely being arrested for it? Really?” I just roll my eyes every time I hear that. Those people think they’re so brave and bold end up looking like an utter fool. And most likely would end up wetting their pants and cowering in a corner if they were to ever attempt that. I would also like to add the people who say ” If that had been me I woulda let them have it! I woulda said, this and this and that…..”
You know what? Nobody knows what they will say in an altercation until they’re actually in it. You may think you would have all sorts of brazen things to say to the offender but when it actually happens you could end up being completely intimidated. I’ve found that the quietest, meekest people are usually the ones who hold up the best in confrontation! They’re the ones who end up having a strong backbone that nobody knew about. The aggressive people turn to jelly the second someone gets past their bold facade.
* The second type of aggressive person is the one who who always “speaks their mind”. There are the type of people who are honest, confident and speak their thought and feelings graciously and intelligently. Then there are those who speak their mind. And not only that, they walk around telling everyone that they speak their mind. Any time they are slighted in the least they’re in your face. Or if they are a coworker they’re constantly complaining to the boss about one insignificant issue or another. The boss usually rolls their eyes and groans every time they see this person coming. Those kind of people are usually a hassle to be around and aren’t doing themselves any favors.
The Bible says this about those people:
Proverbs 12 :23- A prudent man keeps his knowledge to himself, but the heart of fools blurts out folly.
Proverbs 15:12-The tongue of the wise commends knowledge, but the mouth of the fool gushes folly.
Proverbs 17: 28-Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent, and discerning if he holds his tongue.
Proverbs 18:2-A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions.
Proverbs 18:6-A fool’s lips bring him strife, and his mouth invites a beating.
Proverbs 20:3-It is to a man’s honor to avoid strife, but every fool is quick to quarrel.
Proverbs 26:12-Do you see a man wise in his own eyes? There is more hope for a fool than for him.
Proverbs 29:20-Do you see a man who speaks in haste? There is more hope for a fool than for him.
Isn’t the Bible awesome? I couldn’t have said it better myself! Even though it’s an old book it’s God’s Word to us and continues to be relevant for every situation.
Dear Fool,
We don’t always need to know what’s on your mind. Sometimes it’s just better to shut up, get over it and walk away.
*The third type of person I’d like to mention today is the uber sarcastic person. The one who turns every conversation into a match of wits, clever retorts and comebacks. Those people are so tiresome! Don’t you find those people slightly condescending and feel like they are somehow always making fun of you? Sometimes it’s just nice to have a casual, relaxed conversation without having to be on your toes with a quick retort. Yes, they may seem witty and fun in a group or a party but we all tend to gravitate back to that meek and gentle person when we want to be real. And I’ve been at the receiving end of cutting sarcasm one too many times. I want to say to them ” Bravo! You were pretty funny and clever with that cut down. You must feel pretty good about yourself especially since I didn’t have a quick and clever comeback of my own. You can sleep peacefully tonight knowing you shredded my feelings and confidence today”. These are the same people that get upset and think you’re being a baby or too sensitive when you’ve finally had enough of their cutting remarks and say something.
The Bible has something to say about our words as well:
Proverbs 12:18 -Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.
Proverbs 16:24- Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.
Now, I’m not saying I don’t like joking and witty banter. Although, I’d have to say I’m not good at the witty banter part! I’m always a few minutes late with that one! And I’m definitely not saying I’ve never done any of these things. I think one the lessons we can take home from this post is that our words do matter. Once you say something you can’t take it back. The damage is done no matter how much you were “only joking”.
So, what do you think?
Agree? Do the same things bother you?
Think I’m crazy? Think I’m way off with this post?
Peeved that I seem to have so many pet peeves??
C’mon…let me have it! 
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