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Pet Peeve(s) Of The Day
Thursday, February 18th, 2010
You know you missed it. You know you’ve wanted to hear more about what peeves me.
Today, my pet peeves center around aggressive people. I think we all have people like this in our lives. And if it’s just me that has these type of people in my life, well, then, there’s something wrong with this picture!
* The scenario….
You’re telling your friends or a small group of people about some altercation you’ve had recently, be it with a store clerk, co-worker or stranger on the street. The other person was clearly the instigator and you and your listeners are getting riled up just hearing about the story. We all know that one person who thinks they’re big and bad who will say ” Man if that had been me I would have punched that person in the face! They’re sure lucky it wasn’t me that was there!” I’ve found that many times, that big bad person is a woman! After hearing that statement I want to say ” Really? You would really punch that person in the face? And, what, even if you did, you would be proud of assaulting someone and then most likely being arrested for it? Really?” I just roll my eyes every time I hear that. Those people think they’re so brave and bold end up looking like an utter fool. And most likely would end up wetting their pants and cowering in a corner if they were to ever attempt that. I would also like to add the people who say ” If that had been me I woulda let them have it! I woulda said, this and this and that…..”
You know what? Nobody knows what they will say in an altercation until they’re actually in it. You may think you would have all sorts of brazen things to say to the offender but when it actually happens you could end up being completely intimidated. I’ve found that the quietest, meekest people are usually the ones who hold up the best in confrontation! They’re the ones who end up having a strong backbone that nobody knew about. The aggressive people turn to jelly the second someone gets past their bold facade.
* The second type of aggressive person is the one who who always “speaks their mind”. There are the type of people who are honest, confident and speak their thought and feelings graciously and intelligently. Then there are those who speak their mind. And not only that, they walk around telling everyone that they speak their mind. Any time they are slighted in the least they’re in your face. Or if they are a coworker they’re constantly complaining to the boss about one insignificant issue or another. The boss usually rolls their eyes and groans every time they see this person coming. Those kind of people are usually a hassle to be around and aren’t doing themselves any favors.
The Bible says this about those people:
Proverbs 12 :23- A prudent man keeps his knowledge to himself, but the heart of fools blurts out folly.
Proverbs 15:12-The tongue of the wise commends knowledge, but the mouth of the fool gushes folly.
Proverbs 17: 28-Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent, and discerning if he holds his tongue.
Proverbs 18:2-A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions.
Proverbs 18:6-A fool’s lips bring him strife, and his mouth invites a beating.
Proverbs 20:3-It is to a man’s honor to avoid strife, but every fool is quick to quarrel.
Proverbs 26:12-Do you see a man wise in his own eyes? There is more hope for a fool than for him.
Proverbs 29:20-Do you see a man who speaks in haste? There is more hope for a fool than for him.
Isn’t the Bible awesome? I couldn’t have said it better myself! Even though it’s an old book it’s God’s Word to us and continues to be relevant for every situation.
Dear Fool,
We don’t always need to know what’s on your mind. Sometimes it’s just better to shut up, get over it and walk away.
*The third type of person I’d like to mention today is the uber sarcastic person. The one who turns every conversation into a match of wits, clever retorts and comebacks. Those people are so tiresome! Don’t you find those people slightly condescending and feel like they are somehow always making fun of you? Sometimes it’s just nice to have a casual, relaxed conversation without having to be on your toes with a quick retort. Yes, they may seem witty and fun in a group or a party but we all tend to gravitate back to that meek and gentle person when we want to be real. And I’ve been at the receiving end of cutting sarcasm one too many times. I want to say to them ” Bravo! You were pretty funny and clever with that cut down. You must feel pretty good about yourself especially since I didn’t have a quick and clever comeback of my own. You can sleep peacefully tonight knowing you shredded my feelings and confidence today”. These are the same people that get upset and think you’re being a baby or too sensitive when you’ve finally had enough of their cutting remarks and say something.
The Bible has something to say about our words as well:
Proverbs 12:18 -Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.
Proverbs 16:24- Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.
Now, I’m not saying I don’t like joking and witty banter. Although, I’d have to say I’m not good at the witty banter part! I’m always a few minutes late with that one! And I’m definitely not saying I’ve never done any of these things. I think one the lessons we can take home from this post is that our words do matter. Once you say something you can’t take it back. The damage is done no matter how much you were “only joking”.
So, what do you think?
Agree? Do the same things bother you?
Think I’m crazy? Think I’m way off with this post?
Peeved that I seem to have so many pet peeves??
C’mon…let me have it! 
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Pet Peeve(s) Of The Day
Wednesday, November 18th, 2009
I haven’t done one of these in ages! It’s high time for another Pet Peeve(s) Of The Day post, don’t ya think?
Do you have pet peeves? I certainly do! And apparently, they are many.
1)Have you ever met someone who’s circumstances/life/tragedy/situation is always worse than yours?
For example, a few years ago I had an acquaintance who had one child and I had none. We liked to hang out occasionally but she was always complaining how hard it was to do anything with a child and “I would see how hard things could really be once I had a child”. Then she got pregnant with her second child, had her second and I got pregnant with Katelyn. We lost touch for a while and then got back in touch again. I now had Katelyn and she had her two children. Well, suddenly, I had it easy because I only had one child and she had two. If I heard ” Well, I can’t do this or that or the other because I have two kids!” or ” Wait until you have two kids” I was going to scream. Then I had Madelyn, and she had her third. You can guess what her favorite phrases were then. Her life was crazy and hard because she had three kids. And I only had two. I got tired of hearing ” You trying doing this or that with three kids” or ” Try being sick with three kids!”
Sigh. Do you know anyone like that? Whatever it is you’re going through is not as bad as what they are going through. If you have a ingrown toenail, there’s is worse. If you have had a rough time during pregnancy, the other woman was bed ridden for nine months and almost died.
There’s sharing your story and just plain being annoying and trying to one up the other person.
2) Another pet peeve of mine is when people pronounce common words the wrong way and aren’t interested in saying them the correct way. Or, they don’t even have to be common words. They can be not-so-common words. This also applies to people’s names. I listened to a discussion a while back on the pronunciation of the band that Chris Daughtry leads. Girl #1 was pronouncing the band’s name as “Daw-tree” but you could tell she wasn’t real sure if that was the correct way to say it. Girl #2 went on and on about “Doh-er-tee”. So girl #1 also started saying “Doh-er-tee” . I wanted to stand up and shout ” It’s Daw-tree. DAW-TREE!!!!”
When you consistently pronounce words the wrong way you sound ignorant. Cut it out.
Same goes with spelling and grammar. Use spell check. Look it up. You look ignorant on paper when you spell every other word incorrectly. Good grammar makes you looks smart. There’s a difference between your and you’re and their/there/they’re. I’m certainly not an English major and sometimes I’ll go back and read a post and be horrified at my grammar or spelling. That usually happens when I’m blogging in a hurry or while watching t.v. Not a good combo.
3) I HATE it when people write me on Facebook or in an e-mail and use texting lingo and spelling. Its so annyg wen ppl rite me a note n don’t use prper spelln and punctuation do u see how annoying this can get when a whole note is written this way n has no commas or periods so I dont no where the sentence begins or ends or what is a quest or a statement do u get that? Save txting grammar for txting n rite properly when writn a reg email or msg.
And stop using ‘n’ for ‘and‘ and ‘ing‘. PLEASE.
This does not apply to Twitter. Twitter doesn’t allow for a lot of characters so sometimes you have to use texting grammar and spelling.
I apologize if I’ve offended any of my friends who write me this way. You don’t have to stop writing like that just for me. Just know that I’ll cringe every time I read something from you.
Wat abt u? Do u find n e of these annyg?
Pet Peeve(s) Of The Day
Tuesday, September 8th, 2009
My pet peeve(s) today deal with social etiquette. Well, at least, in my opinion it has to do with social etiquette and plain ol’ good manners. These are things that drive me up the wall. Do they peeve you too?
*People who don’t RSVP.
This is a BIG one in my book. I hate it when I send an invitation out to people that clearly says “Please RSVP by this certain date” and people don’t RSVP! Whenever I get an invitation I always RSVP. It’s common courtesy, people! There’s a reason I put “Please RSVP” in an invitation I send out. I ask for a response so I can plan accordingly! I don’t put in on there for my health! If I’m having a party and I invite 50 people and 35 RSVP, that’s how many I’m planning on!! If 10 people who don’t RSVP show up then there are 10 extra people I wasn’t planning on feeding or including in the event I had planned. And when there is a date to RSVP by it’s because I need to know the amount of people to plan on so I can shop accordingly. I’ve had people RSVP the day of the event and that is soo annoying. Although I’m thrilled to have them come what I really want to say is ” Sorry! I wasn’t planning on you coming since, you know, you didn’t RSVP by the date specified so I have no food for you.” Humph.
So, can you tell that peeves me? Is this a petty thing or what? Do you guys take RSVP-ing seriously?
*Chronic Tardiness
Another thing that I think is so rude are people who are chronically late to EVERYTHING. To me that shows such a huge sign of disrespect and uncaring for the people who are waiting for you. And, actually, I read(somewhere) that being late to something all the time DOES indeed show a lack of concern for the people and event taking place. For example: In my opinion, barring emergencies, a bad morning or the occasional alarm- didn’t- go- off fiasco people who are consistency late to church every Sunday are showing exactly what they thing about that church. Now ,I’m not going to blanket everyone who is late to church in that statement. Again, there are extenuating circumstances that may cause some people to be late every Sunday. But, if you are just one of those people that can’t get up on time then that, to me, is a problem. (And I’m just using church as an example since it is a big part of my life. You can insert any kind of gathering or meeting in this scenario). Most people try to make it to work on time because they know their job depends on it. If you can make it to work on time every day of the week than you can certainly plan ahead enough to make it to church,PTA meetings, boards meetings, playgroups, parties or whatever else you are expected to be on time for.
Is this just me?
*People who constantly interrupt you when you’re talking
I HATE that. Nothing is more irritating than when you’re in a group of people, telling a story you find particularly enthralling and someone interrupts you, mid-sentence, to tell their story or to rudely start a different topic of conversation. This also goes for discussions or points trying to be made and one on one conversations.I think we all know people who are constant conversation interrupters.
*People who try to carry on conversations with your from another room
This pet peeve is two-fold:
1) I think we all know by now I have hearing problems. So, whenever someone tries to talk to me by yelling at me from another room and I can’t hear them this forces me to have to seek them out to have them repeat what they are saying. Very annoying. My stance on this is: If you need to talk to me, YOU come to ME. Don’t shout at me from another room and expect a concise, intelligent answer.
2) I also HATE being called to ” Come here” from someone else in another room just so they can ask me a question or tell me something. How rude is that? That is so lazy. Get off your butt and come find me if you have something to say. YOU come to ME. Common courtesy. Don’t tell me to “come here”!! I worked with someone like that and it drove me crazy. If I heard ” Hey. Melissa! C’mere” again I was going to scream. I had to stop what I was doing and go to them like some little child. Very rude. Stop it.
So, am I alone with these pet peeves? Do they peeve you too?
